People often hide their feelings behind a wall of words. They use a kind of double-talk in which words and feelings do not agree. A communications consultant who holds workshops on this subject says that many people are afraid that honesty in speech will cost them friendships, love or respect. So they either keep their lips zipped or say something other than what they mean.
Other factors that may impede straight talk are shyness, lack of confidence, fear of displaying ignorance, trying to avoid criticism, and not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings.
Believers in Christ are not exempt from this problem. Trying to be both loving and truthful can be difficult, but the Bible tells us how to deal with this dilemma. The book of James teaches us that we need the wisdom that comes from God above. The Lord will enable us By His Holy Spirit to speak effectively and honestly. His wisdom is “first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willingly to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.”
Let’s govern our speech with these qualities from God’s Word. Then we will not have to hide behind a wall of words. —MRD II