When we are with people who are grieving or suffering, we may feel a need to fill the awkwardness of the occasion with words. Not to say something, we fear is to let them down. We may even find ourselves avoiding the bereaved because we’re afraid we won’t know what to say.
Author Joe Bayly, who lost three sons through death, described two examples of comfort he had received during his deepest grief; “Someone came and talked to me of God’s dealings of why it happened. of hope beyond the grave. He talked constantly and said things I knew were true. I was unmoved, except to wish he’d go away. He finally did.
“Another came and sat beside me. He didn’t talk. He didn’t ask leading questions. He just sat beside me for an hour and more, listened when I said something, answered briefly, prayed simply and left. I was moved. I was comforted, I hated to see him go.”
Job experienced similar emotions. In his grief, he too had craved silent support from his friends. He cried out, “Oh, that you would be silent , and it would be your wisdom!’. Instead, he was worn down by their many words.
The next time you’re with people who are grieving, allow you presence to be their comfort.
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A number of computer games come with a special feature called the “Boss Key”. If you’re playing a game when you’re supposed to be working, and someone (Like the boss) walks into your office, you quickly strike the Boss Key. Your computer screen changes immediately hiding what you’ve been doing.
Trying to hide from others when we’ve done something wrong comes naturally. We may feel guilty, but our desire to avoid admitting our responsibility is often stronger than our guilt.
Achan tried to hide his sin. He had stolen silver and gold and hidden it is his tent. But when the Israelites were defeated in battle, the Lord told their leader Joshua that the loss was due to sin in the camp. The Lord identified Achan as the one who had sinned. And even though Achan confessed, he and his family were executed.
We may not understand why God disobedient, it’s time to come out of hiding. God is lovingly calling you and offering. His cleansing, forgiveness,m and restoration.
by Anne Cetas
The Handmaid’s Tale
Offred is a Handmaid in the Republic of Gilead. She has only one function: to breed. If she deviates, she will, like dissenters, be hanged at the wall or sent out to die slowly of radiation sickness. But even a repressive state cannot obliterate desire – neither Offred’s nor that of the two men on which her future hangs.